A:I moved last month, and I thought I would be quite upset. My boyfriend really had to talk me into it, as I didn't want to leave the first place we had bought together yet.
On the day though, as soon as I'd been in the new place 10 minutes I could barely remember my flat. It felt like my home straight away, and I definately don't regret it for a second.
A:I can understand how you feel as well, we have only lived in our flat 2.5 years, in that time we have worked really hard to get it how we want it (we brought it from an 80 year old lady and we're in our 20's and 30's so you can imagine what it was like). Our flat was the first placed we brought together, we got engaged there and we came back from our weddingmoon as newlyweds to our flat so it holds lots of important memories.
When we decided to sell we saw a house opposite which we loved the look of but it sold before we could view it, in hindsight it was the best thing for us because I would find it all too painful to see someone make lots of changes to what would have been our home.
I can't wait to move into our new property but I know WHEN the day finally arrives to leave I will be gutted and there will be lots of tears, right now I feel really unsettled at home and I hate these feelings, moving is very stresful and emotional – I don't know what I would do if my parents ever decided to move that would be awful them selling what was our family home.
Good luck with your move I hope it all goes well for you.
A:I can empathise with feeling attached to a property….
When I divorced and left my ex years ago, I was more upset about leaving the house than him! lol I fumed for almost 2yrs after he moved his new partner into "my" house! She was welcome to Him but not the house!
The most ironic part was when she left him after 5yrs and also wanted her share of the property….!
I'm so ready to move on from rented now. Very happy in the relationship I'm in and ready for a fresh start now that my son has grown up and is independent.
We're really looking forward to making our new home together.
A:Dazco why do you feel the need to follow me around and search for my posts over the last few days, its getting boring now actually its sickening and creepy.
A:Have been in mine quite a bit longer – and have also been getting the "unsettled" bit for a few years now, but it's the country not the house.
A:I have also lived in our present house for almost 17 years its our first house, rasied two kids and now they want something bigger. I have been happy most of the time but the last few years I just have had some many things happen.
I have decided to move, and start a new chapter, getting there as I found out today is the hardest part.
If you are unhappy perhaps its best to move on, start a fresh. You still have them good memories, moving wont take them away from you.
Sure there will be tears on the day but look at it as a new chapter. Life's too short enjoy it Best of luck
Sorry to hear you are unhappy guy
A:I have also lived in our present house for almost 17 years its our first house, rasied two kids and now they want something bigger. I have been happy most of the time but the last few years I just have had some many things happen.
I have decided to move, and start a new chapter, getting there as I found out today is the hardest part.
If you are unhappy perhaps its best to move on, start a fresh. You still have them good memories, moving wont take them away from you.
Sure there will be tears on the day but look at it as a new chapter. Life's too short enjoy it Best of luck
A:You are bound to, but if you like this place, go for it. Like you say, this is your chance to have your first home together….. I feel sick thinking about my move – but I know we have to do it, if not for me then for the childrens sake (my eldest still in a bunk bed and hates it!). I am also very excited. I can start afresh and re-decorate the house. The children can't wait to go, nor my DH – its just me who feels attached here, but like I said, at the end of the day my memories are in my head, not within these walls.
If it feels right – go with your gut instinct.
Good luck xx :smiley:
A:Hi Cuffie
Thanks for your kind post and I hope your move goes well! The estate is over the road so you have to walk past the end of it to go to town etc but not actually past our house as that is quite a way down the estate(if that makes sense lol).I was actually thinking of moving across town but this is the only house I have seen that I have actually thought I would like to go back and have another look! and I like what I see!
My kids are now 23 and 21 and have both got their own places—-my eldest lives right down south so I dont see much of her as shes away at Uni.I feel that I didnt have the chance to get anywhere with my OH together(when we got together we both had so much debt that it would never have been possible) and this would actually be our "first" home that we have chosen together. I want to move but at the same time feel a little sad/nervous about doing it! I hope this makes sense!
x
A:It is hard moving when you have so many memories, and there are no real reasons for moving…..I am getting emotional thinking about my move – have been here for 13 years (has only ever been my house as like you have owned it from new), this was my first house with my husband, we raised our children here…now we have to go…we have outgrown it and we really need the space. We are sold and on the move in a couple of weeks and I am getting very tearful! I know we have a reason to go, and I suppose the "unsettling" feeling you're getting is not a definite reason for going. Will you be looking across the road to see what they are doing to your old house?? We will have to drive past this house every day to take the kids to school and the guy buying ours has already said he wants to rip up carpets, rip out kitchen, bathrooms, fireplace etc etc….I suddenly had a moment where I didn't actually want to sell it, but I know the time is ready to move on, and thats the thing really – you will want to go eventually and next time won't seem so bad…its just doing it the first time that is hard. Maybe you are unsettled because the kids aren't there anymore and you feel like another chapter is opening up in your life….Think of it as a move up the ladder, a new chapter and remember that your memories are in your head and go with you – at the end of the day when you clear all your stuff out of your house, it will be bricks and mortar – the memories and your "home" are what you take with you. Good luck with whatever you decide to do! xx
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