Q: Im not entirely sure this is the right board to ask this question, but this is the situation:-
My grandpa owns his own 3 bed semi-detached house outright, he bought it for around ￡ 3,000 in the years 1950 and now worth about ￡ 200.000
He is now 91 and very, very old, he barely gets out of bed, doublelyincontinent is very weak, only weighs 8st now (though he looks like he weighs 5th)
My father will daily for him, changes diapers, cooks for him, etc. My grandfather 977,503 to insist that he does not want to go to a house, he is okay, but mentally he is very full to forget times.
The thing is its impact marriage of my parents and my dad goes there everyday and they affect their own lives together as they should (they are both in their 60s)
My Grandpa can not afford to care as they have no savings. Is there a way he can have free care in his own house to give my parents a break from all this agony?
My Grandpa does not want his house which he sold hard for.
Has everyone in this situation and what work can you recommend?
A:Attendance allowance could be claimed and also carers allowance if the AA claim is sucessful. These 2 together could be as much as £100 a week, so would help pay for some care
A:Have you been in touch with social services? They can assess his needs and devise a care plan. Your Grandpa will have to contribute to the costs, but it is means tested. I don't know if it will affect the house, though I can't imagine they would make him homeless. And if your dad decides he wants to carry on as he is after all, well they can't stop him. Good luck.
Excellent advice. Your grandfather will be allocated a social worker who will do all that the above poster says. There may even be the possibility of respite, adaptations etc.
My great auntie has someone who goes in daily and does simple things like run the washing machine and basic cleaning, and in the evening a couple of ladies come in (called 'angels' and they get her ready and settled in bed. Little things, but great help to my great uncle. They contribute some money towards it, but for the level of help it isn't a lot, and the house isn't taken into consideration in this.
A:this reminds me of my nan
she has a carer visit her in the morning and afternoon, but she won't allow anything else – she pays for this
my dad sorts all her bills for her. he was doing her shopping, but now age concern do it – at a cost
A:not much help with the careing but he could take out a small interest only morgage say 50k then use some of the money to pay off the monthly payments with the rest for care
A:I think Age Concern have information booklet.
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A:Hi – you've raised a lot of issues. Although I haven't gone through this situation myself, I do know other people who have. As I understand it, as long as your grandfather insists on staying in his home (and is regarded as mentally capable), he is entitled to do so. Obviously, the burden of care is falling on your parents at the moment. So I'd advise you to contact Social Services (and perhaps his doctor), if you haven't done so already. They can advise you on the kind of support that may be available for your grandfather and, if he's willing, carry out a home assessment. My husband's grandmother, for example, who was equally determined to stay in her own home agreed to have a home care assistant attend to her in the mornings (getting her out of bed, dressed, washed, breakfast etc) and in the evenings (putting her to bed etc). She also had regular visits during the week from a nurse and meals on wheels. But relatives still had to spend a lot of time tending to her needs. I hope that helps and I wish you luck.
A:Have you been in touch with social services? They can assess his needs and devise a care plan. Your Grandpa will have to contribute to the costs, but it is means tested. I don't know if it will affect the house, though I can't imagine they would make him homeless. And if your dad decides he wants to carry on as he is after all, well they can't stop him. Good luck.
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